For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.
It has been said that most people are concerned that others think too little of them, but the apostle Paul was very concerned that people would think too much of him. Paul, the author of the letter to the Romans, was transformed by grace. And in being transformed by grace, his whole worldview was reshaped. Grace does that. An encounter with grace changes you. Fundamentally, grace creates a real and true humility. Grace changes you from being a person concerned with people thinking too little of you, to being a person concerned with a sober assessment of ourselves. Grace leads us to be concerned that people might think too highly of us. This concern begins in our own hearts, leading us not to think too highly of ourselves.
It comes through sober judgment of our lives in relationship to God and others. As we reflect on God's love for us, we take into our hearts two very important truths. The first is that we are loved far more deeply, securely, and steadfastly than we can fully comprehend. The other is that we are far more flawed and sinful than we fully realize. These two truths taken together transform our hearts.
God, the greatest and most glorious being in all existence, loves us. And this love is not based in what we do. This love is based squarely in the fact that God loves us because he loves us, not because of what we do. It is a gracious love. We get this love from God, because Jesus deserves it, and it is directed toward us, even though we are so very flawed and sinful.
Let the twin truths of grace give you a sober judgement of yourself, and may you live far more concerned that people think too highly of you rather than think too little of you.