Dan Buckle | Hudson Middle School Counselor
Jake Pierson | Director of MS Discipleship
Ben McMullen | Director of HS Discipleship
We admit this should be at least a weekend seminar. There’s an incredible amount of information we could talk about, but we want to keep it simple and hopefully helpful. Our goal is to open up a conversation in our church family, that will continue in your homes, families, missional communities, friendship, and with coworkers. We are not experts in the trends of technology, but we do work with teenagers and parents and we want to be partners with you in discipling your child, specifically in the area of technology.
Most important, we want to help each other to have a better vision for our families. It’s easy to settle or to get lost completely. We need to remind ourselves how to respond with the good news of Jesus while fighting the natural temptation to fear. May the Gospel encourage us today as we may face the reality that we’ve failed in our personal lives, our marriages, and our parenting. There is hope in moving forward because Jesus is with us.
Note: throughout the presentation when referring to technology we were usually addressing smartphones, social media, the internet - although the principles taught can still be applied to other areas of technology use.
At the bottom of all of our problems lies the desires of our hearts. Those desires very pointedly, and sometimes painfully, expose our unbelief. We ALL struggle with unbelief. Even the most pious among us have issues of unbelief with God and what He says is true.
The “Root to Fruit” diagram is a diagnostic tool that shines a light into the darkest parts of our hearts. It gives us a starting point of where in our hearts we need to seek repentance with God and then gives us the opportunity to take action steps toward greater obedience to Jesus and enjoyment of God.
Do this FIRST for yourself, and then apply this with your family.
Be SPECIFIC! In what ways is God calling you to be obedient?
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Like most things in life, our heart is always prone to find ultimate joy in God’s creation while forgetting the Creator. Technology use that is lacking in wisdom, self-control, and purpose will rob us of the JOY God has created us for. We will be distracted, disappointed, lonely, depressed if we allow our devices to control us instead of putting them in their proper place.
What is ultimately at stake with this issue is our heart’s ability to worship God. To truly connect with God - to genuinely love and serve others - to focus and get genuinely good and creative work done. What we are seeing in our current culture is nothing new, but markedly different. We have always tempted to replace God with something created, but it looks so different now because of how rapidly our technological world is evolving. To reiterate, technology is not necessarily evil (though there is much out there that is evil in the digital world) - but it isn’t difficult for us to see the ways in which we are twisting the goodness of God’s creation.
“If we consider the unblushing promises of reward and the staggering nature of the rewards promised in the Gospels, it would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition (and endless hours lost to Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter) when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”
- C.S. Lewis, “The Weight of Glory”
Take some time to work through these questions.
“We are meant to build this kind of life together: the kind of life that, at the end, is completely dependent upon one another; the kind of life that ultimately transcends, and does not need, the easy solutions of technology because it is caught up in something more true and more lasting than any alchemy our technological world can invent. We are meant to be family - not just marriages bound by vows and the children that come from them, but a wider family that invites others into our lives and even the threshold of our very last breath, to experience vulnerability and grace, sorrow and hope, singing our way homeward. We are meant not just for thin, virtual connections but for visceral, real connection to one another in this fleeting, temporary, and infinitely beautiful and worthwhile life. We are meant to die in one another's arms, surrounded by prayer and song, knowing beyond knowing that we are loved.
We are meant for so much more than technology can ever give us - above all, for wisdom and courage that it will never give us. We are meant to spur one another along the way to a better life, the life that really is life. Why not begin living that life, together, now?”
- Andy Crouch, Tech-Wise Family
“Drawing on in-depth original research from the Barna Group, Andy Crouch shows readers that the choices we make about technology have consequences we may never have considered. He takes readers beyond the typical questions of what, where, and when and instead challenges them to answer provocative questions like, Who do we want to be as a family? and How does our use of a particular technology move us closer or farther away from that goal? Anyone who has felt their family relationships suffer or their time slip away amid technology's distractions will find in this book a path forward to reclaiming their real life in a world of devices.”
“Drawing from the insights of numerous thinkers, published studies, and his own research, writer Tony Reinke identifies twelve potent ways our smartphones have changed us—for good and bad. Reinke calls us to cultivate wise thinking and healthy habits in the digital age, encouraging us to maximize the many blessings, to avoid the various pitfalls, and to wisely wield the most powerful gadget of human connection ever unleashed.”
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Gathering together for worship is an indispensable part of your family’s spiritual life. It is a means for God to reveal himself to you and your loved ones in a powerful way.
This practical guide by Donald S. Whitney will prove invaluable to families―with or without children in the home―as they practice God-glorifying, Christ-exalting worship through Bible reading, prayer, and singing. Includes a discussion guide in the back for small groups.
Drawing on a diverse array of real-life examples, from Amish farmers to harried parents to Silicon Valley programmers, Newport identifies the common practices of digital minimalists and the ideas that underpin them. He shows how digital minimalists are rethinking their relationship to social media, rediscovering the pleasures of the offline world, and reconnecting with their inner selves through regular periods of solitude. He then shares strategies for integrating these practices into your life, starting with a thirty-day "digital declutter" process that has already helped thousands feel less overwhelmed and more in control.
"Digital Minimalism isn’t distinctly Christian, but it’s an insightful and well-argued strategy for flourishing in a cultural moment saturated with minutiae and starved of meaning. This is an extremely helpful book and framework for anyone who senses their own need for peace, rest, and spiritual discipline in a distracted, dislocated, and dissatisfied time."
- Samuel D. James, Gospel Coalition
In a social media-centered world, the smart phone has become a cultural rite of passage for kids. But is that rite all wrong?
How can this generation of parents blaze a new trail to equip their kids to thrive in an ever-changing digital environment while steering clear of the dangers that lurk nearby?
With six teens, Kirk Cameron fully understands this dilemma. So he went to the experts and what he learned will enlighten, challenge, and encourage parents. And best of all: it can help strengthen your family!
Join Kirk on this important journey of discovery and practical next steps in his brand-new documentary, CONNECT. If you’re committed to raising kids who will make an impact in this world, get your copy of CONNECT and find real help for parenting kids in a social media world.
Serving with you,
Jake Pierson & Ben McMullen
Directors for Student Ministry